Rock Your Shit - A letter to badass & beautiful women
"When you grow up as a girl, the world tells you the things that you are supposed to be: emotional, loving, beautiful, wanted. And then when you are those things, the world tells you they are inferior: illogical, weak, vain, empty." -Stevie nicks
Dear my beautiful WOMEN of Instagram and whoever else reads my blog,
Sometimes I believe that I am happy, free, and beautiful. Other times I question it all. We all do. We are only human. I am only human. I am still growing and learning. Do not compare yourself to me. This is one thing I wish I could say everyday to all of the incredible women that follow me on instagram. There are a thousand things I wish I could say to you. Here are a few.
Do what you love and love what you do. Find what you're good at and make damn sure that you become great at it. Follow your true passions do not let anyone tell you you cannot be something or do something. In a world with so many expectations, judgement and where so many people are telling you how to live your life- what a beautiful thing it is to not give a fuck. Go to college! Or don't! Become a doctor! Become a teacher! Become an actor! Follow your dream and no-one else's. Life is too short.
In regards to social media; post whatever the hell you want to! Post as often as you want to! Got a great butt? Rock it! A dope car? Rock it! Travel often? Rock it! Great bikini bod? Rock it! Work out a lot? Rock it! Fake tits? Rock that shit!!! Instagram is a platform for creating and sharing whatever the hell you want to share. There is no set thing that you are supposed to post on instagram and that is what makes the platform so great!!! Also on the flip side- If you don't like someone's content- then unfollow them. Don't put down other people or other women for having posting too provocative of photos, having plastic surgery, not being that attractive or whatever the hell else people get judged for. While we are all using this app for different reasons, at the end of the day we are all just human beings trying to be happy and trying to put our best selves into the world. Instagram isn't the entirety of someone's life so watch what you say before you judge someone based solely on this stupid app.
You don't have to be modest to be respected. On social media and in the real world. You can be badass and beautiful. You can be sexy and classy; all at the same time! Don't let these small minded people define YOU. If someone does not respect YOU for being YOU, than that is their problem. They are not worth even a second of your time.
You don't need a man to give you permission or validation to do ANYTHING. Want to wear that outfit? Go for it! Want to post that picture? Fuck yeah! A man who tries to control you or tell you what you can and cannot put out in the world is NOT a man that truly loves and respects you. "That outfit is too revealing" or "That picture is too slutty" are not things that a real man who loves you says or should ever say. A real man would hold your hand walking down the street in your cute ass outfit and show you off to the world. A real man would comment on your picture and say "damn I'm so lucky you're mine" and feel honored that other men have to see that picture on their timeline and will never get the chance to touch you. Never settle for these insecure little boys.
Find what you love about yourself and be confident in those things. Confidence is not a bad thing. Loving yourself is not a bad thing. Calling yourself hot as fuck is not a bad thing. Rock your shit girl!
Remember that every woman is beautiful no matter what shape or size you are! In a world where social media and likes have come to define how attractive we are we must find the courage and confidence to rise above that. Social media is so much fun but if you feel it defining your self worth- take a step back from it for a while. Unfollow any of the women that you find yourself envying. Stop comparing yourself to other women and remember that everyone only posts their best photos. We all have days that we look like shit. Even the Kardashians. We all have those days.
We live in a day and age where as women, our bodies have become so over-sexualized. Fuck that. Wear what you want. Post what you want. Do what you want. Say what you want. I am a 21-year old woman who makes my own decisions and I STILL feel like most of what I do or think about myself is controlled by society's expectations. I want to get away from this. I try everyday to get away from this. Women, it's time we all get away from this. Fuck what anyone else says or thinks. YOU are beautiful. You are sexy.
Post about it. Smile about it. Go out into the world and Rock your shit. Life is too short to not make your entire life into a work of art. Do everything you want. Be everything you want. Hold nothing back.
"Who are you?
Are you in touch with all your darkest fantasies?
Have you created a life for yourself where you're free to experience them?
I have. I am fucking crazy, but I am free." - Lana Del Rey